Mind Your P’s and You’s

Remember when you were reminded by your mom, to watch your p’s & q’s. It meant behave yourself, be nice. Be mannerly. It seems we have lost our way when its comes to manners especially in long-term relationships. The familiarity seems to be breeding something else.”Communication skills are ” the currency of a relationship, because it is literally the air that lives between people that makes their relationship vital or suffocating.” (Wendy Strgar)
What is it about polite mannerly interaction and the word “you“. The oblique/objective form you functioned originally as both accusative and dative.   (from Wikipedia)  I love the term accusative, because I always feel like I am being accused when people start a  sentence with you; as in you should, you are,  you will. It feels like a big pointing finger is invading my space.
Instead of wanting to listen and receive the communication I find myself moving backwards.It’s the same with being polite. Saying move instead of excuse me. Forgetting please and thank you.You wouldn’t tell your boss to move. Our partners, kids or close companions should be treated better than our neighbors, coworkers, bosses or anyone  else. P’s & q’s need to be revived as a practice. Loving kindness and mindfulness need to start at home. Just like mom said.
*even when she started the sentence with you

From an old printer’s axiom. Back in the early days of printing presses, each line of text had to be set up one letter at a time. Since the letters in the press were reversed (so they’d print forward), the print-maker (or typographers) need to be careful not to confuse one letter for the other.
Reminding someone to “watch his p’s and q’s” means to pay attention to the details
This axiom, regardless of its origins, has been common in post-Victorian Britain as an abbreviation of ‘to mind your manners’ or, more specifically, to say both ‘please’ (p’s) and ‘thank you’ (thank-Q).
Thus the phrase ‘watch your p’s and q’s’ has been in use to encourage people to speak politely, especially children, who remember such phrases better than just instructions.
Kid 1: You spill my pint?
Kid 2: feck off!
Mum: Oi, watch you’re p’s and q’s!
Kid 2: Sorry. Feck off, please.

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